I hope you don’t mind, but I need to gush about my husband for a minute. I keep a list of all the things I love and appreciate about my spouse, (Ladies, this is great for those days you need a reminder! Wink, wink.) and periodically I add to the list. I won’t bore you with the entire list, just a few highlights.
1. He is quick to apologize. I can’t explain to you how special this trait is! I never doubt that he loves and adores me. He isn’t willingly to let anything get in the way of this fact or any argument to cripple my sense of love and safety. If there are any men reading this, it is DAMN SEXY, and you should try it sometime!
2. He sincerely tries to make me happy! He’s willing to make sacrifices to ensure that I am fulfilled, and he ascribes to the “happy wife, happy life” mentality. It’s so genuine that in the throes of severe PMS I get a nagging sense of guilt because my raging hormones make me a temporarily unhappy woman! How unattractive! Especially when a happy woman makes everyone happy, kids included.
3. We are opposites. You’re wondering why this is on the list? The obvious response is that we compliment one another, where I am weak, he is strong and vice versa. The less obvious reason is that it’s challenging! It’s hard for an idealistic extrovert to be married to an introverted realist. But he thinks I’m worth it! He lets me sit in coffee shops to be alone for hours when it means that he’s at home getting cabin fever with the kiddos. He entrusts me with the family rules and budget which otherwise would not exist. He trusts me and has faith in our differences.
Last night, I was chatting with friends on the topic of celebrity marriages and how refreshing it is to hear about couples that have stood the test of time – the same man happily married to the same woman. But it’s not just rare in celebrity circles, it’s rare in general. It made me think about why I am happily married. I am happy because I have a loving, generous and humble spouse.