It’s ok, you can admit it…

Motherhood is hard. If you’re a mom, you know. But why are women afraid to admit that its difficult? After becoming a mom, I decided that I would commit to honesty because when I share my personal experiences I feel like others are encouraged by that honesty – that if I feel that way sometimes, then they shouldn’t feel so guilty. Guilt – there it is. The answer to why women aren’t talking about it. I think we are afraid that if we tell someone that we’re struggling with elements of motherhood, that those sentiments will be interpreted as “Well, she must hate being a mom” or “She’s miserable, and its all the kid’s fault”. The same issue applies to marriage. As someone who loves being a wife and a mom more than anything in the whole world, I guess I feel a little safer in the honest confessions, because I know in my heart that I wouldn’t do anything differently. Friends, we all need to have a safe place to talk about the struggles of marriage and family. Find a trustworthy friend or an understanding group that can listen and encourage without fear of judgment or misinterpretation.

I love my husband, adore my daughter and can’t wait to meet our second child. But that doesn’t change the fact that life can be hard and living on one income is a challenge.  Those struggles ebb and flow from day to day, but its our loved ones that make the struggle worth it. They are the daily joys that keep our hearts lifted and full of hope when things fail and bills pile up. So give yourself a break! You are doing the two most selfless things that you can do – you’re a wife and a mother. Every day you wake up and die to yourself, go to sleep and then wake and do it again. It’s uncomfortable and often painful. As a Christian, male and female, we are all called to “die to self” in the service of others, to sacrificially put others first, as Christ did. What a holy call. Don’t write off the worthiness of what you do, often unconsciously, every day. Know that there is loving Father in heaven celebrating your courage and children who will one day comprehend the beautiful gift that they were given.


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2 responses to It’s ok, you can admit it…

  1. Henriette

    Well said!!!

  2. Susan Lacock

    I used to ask people like Nancy Scherich and my mom how they were able to do all of the things required with all of the children. Nancy said she really didn’t have time to think about it at the time. Mom was very organized and she yelled at me a lot because she wanted things to be perfect and i always had my nose in a book. I always felt overwhelmed because there was always so much to do. doing dishes cooking and cleaning up after 6 boys . My great Aunt Mildred always came to help with the cleaning and wall papering. What a blessing she was to my family. I have tried so hard to make up for my failures as a young girl in my adulthood. I have always admired how you helped your mother with the inside work when she was helping dad with the hog business. I have always been an observer when it comes to motherhood. I heard a saying when children are little they step on you toes and when the are older they step on your heart. Enjoy these times for life passes by so quickly. An attitude of gratitude helps.Be thankful for all things work together for good for those who love God and are called according to his purpose and I can do all things through Christ who strengthenth me. Corrie ten boom in the hiding place reminds us that even having lice enabled them to be alone and worship God.Boy , she was an amazing woman. I love you and moms are special people as are dads. Thank God you have Aaron to help you on this journey. Take time to relax and be close with Jesus. Is there a mops group near u? tonnie enjoys this group. Love you and Eyre and Aaron.

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