How to Love Your Man

I dug out my long-forgotten sketchbook yesterday and out of it fell 2 pieces of yellow notebook paper. As I read my own handwriting, I smiled nostalgically at the words and laughed at the truth written there. They were my notes on How-to Love the Man You Love. My darlings, my friends, please read this and stop creating drama where your marriage or relationship doesn’t need it. You love him, so love him right.

 If you can’t accentuate the positive, at least acknowledge it. The world tells men that there are standards they don’t meet; that there is always another man who is stronger, more handsome, or more capable. But that will never matter to a man if the woman in his life looks at him, accepts him as he is, and loves him as imperfect as he is. The man with a wife who supports him and praises him for all the positive things he does is the envy of all the others who deal with criticism, sarcasm, and constant reminders of their failures.”
1. Men are simple.
2. Men love to hear that their woman is happy and that they are the source of their happiness.
3. Men love to be complimented.
4. Men love to be admired.
5. Men are grumpy when they’re tired or hungry, so anything said in this condition should not be taken seriously.
6. Men don’t like their woman talking about them behind their backs.
7. They need to feel appreciated., accepted, and that his opinion is important.
8. If it’s not important…LET IT GO! Don’t jump on his back.
9. There is a limit to how much he can take before he tunes out or turns away.
10. If a woman changes her mind, men have to just take it, but if a man changes his mind, he’s considered a brute. What’s wrong with this picture?
11. Remember these words, “We are a team and I support you.”
12. Beware of expecting him to be a Jack of All Trades because he may end up feeling like the Master of None.
13. About nagging and complaining, if a man can’t find peace in his own home, where he should feel relaxed, loved, accepted and content, he will begin to hate coming home and resent his life.
14. Men are doers; simple straight-line types. 
15. My feelings aren’t facts and should not be used as weapons.
16. Trust your husband. Recognize that he has his own way of doing things.
17. Beware of the controlling phrase, “You hurt my feelings.”
18. The cruelest thing you can do to your husband is to be unhappy. Remember being happy is more an attitude than a reality.

~lr